Being Together

Parish Safety Guide Number 3

Expectations of behaviour in our church community

The Diocese has adopted a statement of expectations called


Jesus told us to love one another as he loves us. As Christians we know our life together is strengthened when our behaviour is consistent with our faith. However, our experience of being together can be difficult, particularly when there are differences. So it is important to be clear about how we will behave towards each other.

Being a community:

We will value the wellbeing of others. We will encourage each other to participate in the life of the church. We will consider the impact of our behaviour on others.

Relating to each other:

We will treat each other with respect and dignity, irrespective of ability, gender, sexuality, race, age or contribution to the church. We will act with integrity and honesty in our interactions with each other.

Communicating with each other:

We will communicate respectfully with others, and not in a way that threatens, belittles or humiliates. We will speak with integrity and honesty, and refrain from speculation and gossip.

Acknowledging difference:

We will respect those who are different from us and not isolate or ridicule them. We will listen to and seek to understand the beliefs, opinions, and practices of others, even when we do not share their views.

Responding to conflict:

We will accept responsibility for our part in a conflict. We will be willing to play our part in resolving a conflict.

Promoting Safety*:

  • We will promote behaviours that support the physical, psychological, social, spiritual and moral safety of all people.

* Added by the Diocesan Council of Newcastle 2019

Click here for a PDF version of Being Together


We share responsibility to confront corrosive behaviours in church communities which can be described as ‘below the line‘ conduct.

We look for church communities to be in engaging in compliant which demonstrate that it is ‘on the line‘ in ensuring attention to the expectations outlined in canons, ordinances and policies.

We welcome creative ‘above the line’ behaviours where church communities look for innovative ways for improving and promoting a safe environment for all people especially children and vulnerable people.

A helpful resource is can be found here.


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